Mind-Body-Spirit connections: mind and body

I shared last month that the more recent years in my healing journey have been about exploring the mind-body-spirit connections.  The first of these connections that I started to recognize in myself is that of mind and body.  This started first by acknowledging that my body is not just a machine with my mind at the controls.  My body is a separate part of me.  It works in connection with my mind (and spirit), but it can respond to thoughts in a myriad of ways. It can also communicate quite directly to my consciousness, if I will only listen to it.

mind-body - when sex hurts there is hopeThis is not to say that addressing the “mechanics” of my body is not an important aspect of healing. I have specific physical injuries that need physical treatment.  The hypertonic muscles of my pelvic floor required physical therapy to heal.  Just as the atrophied and enflamed tissues of my vestibule required hormone treatment to recover.  For some people, these physical treatments are enough to bring them back to good health.  But for me, my physical pains are connected to more than just their physical triggers.  I have been going to physical therapy for seven years now and, while I acknowledge there are more “mechanical” aspects to healing from chronic pain, I believe full healing will only come when I address the broken connections between my mind, body and spirit. Continue reading

Mind-Body-Spirit connections: a preview

mind-body-spirit - when sex hurts there is hopeAs I walk through my healing journey I have found that I never stop learning and discovering. In recent years, much of my learning has been around the idea of a mind-body-spirit connection.  I am learning that I am mind, body, and spirit (or soul) and each is distinct yet entirely one at the same time.  All three aspects of myself can connect and communicate uniquely with each other.

This concept has been more than a little difficult to understand as I am a very logical, mind-based individual.  But, as I am opening up to these ideas I find that I am healing on new levels.  Continue reading

Yoga for pelvic health retreat

yoga for pelvic health - when sex hurts there is hopeA few months ago I had the opportunity to join a yoga for pelvic health workshop put on by Casie Danenhauer, PT, DPT and CYT, and it was amazing!  Now Casie is teaming up with another pelvic floor physical therapist and yogi, Dustienne Miller, CYT, PT, MS, WCS, to put on a yoga for pelvic health retreat!  I am really excited about this because I received such a benefit from the 2-hour workshop, but the value from a full weekend will be exponential.

Casie is sharing a series of interviews from women who participated in the retreat last year.  One retreater, Jennie, shared this about the retreat: “It gave me time and inspiration to reflect on my inner desires and what my heart truly wanted. It also gave me the courage to overcome any fears blocking my path.”  You can read more interviews on Casie’s blog and also reach out to her directly for more details through her website, CasieDPT.com.

Here are some of the important details about the retreat…

There are two retreats planned—one on each coast:

  • May 26-28, 2017 outside of San Luis Obispo, CA at Sagrada Wellness Center
  • October 27-29, 2017 outside of Boston, MA at Spirit Fire Wellness Center

Retreat costs at the Sagrada Wellness Center include all meals, full access to the yoga room, pool, jacuzzi, walking trails, and all retreat programming.

  • Pricing ranges $695-795, depending on your room choice

For more information on the retreat at the Spirit Fire Wellness Center you can email Casie at info@casiedpt.com or contact her through her website.

I hear that the spots are filling up fast, so definitely check this out very soon!  I hope to see you there!

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Waiting in the wilderness

I am an impatient person and not a fan of waiting, no matter what the context.  I have learned to combat this impatience with everyday waiting through multitasking.  Stuck in traffic?…catch up on the latest podcast.  Stuck in line?…catch up on email.  (Honestly, some days I wonder what I ever did before I had an iPhone.)  But what do I do when the
waiting goes way beyond the waiting in the wilderness - when sex hurts there is hopeeveryday nuances of traffic and long lines?  My iPhone is no
match for the inevitable seasons in life when I find myself waiting in the wilderness.  Multitasking can’t combat the frustration of not knowing when difficulties will ever end.  Instead, I think the constant shifting of focus from one distraction to the next is often what prolongs these periods of wilderness waiting. Continue reading

Did you know that birth control pills can cause pelvic pain?

Most women have no idea that taking birth control pills can cause pelvic pain and painful sex.  There has been some controversy on the subject, but I am not here to argue a point. Instead, I want to share about my own experience.  I know for a fact that oral contraceptives were one of the primary causes for my pain.

There is a detailed article by Dr. Andrew Goldstein on the IPPS blog which I will be referring to throughout this post.  (The Dr. Oz blog also provides a good summary of the same article if you’re interested in checking it out.)  What prompted this article last year was a genetic study that Dr. Goldstein and others completed which identified why some women are more susceptible to the damaging effects of birth control pills.

How birth control pills can cause pelvic pain:

Oral contraceptives signal your body (specifically your pituitary gland) to stop producing normal levels of specific hormones which support ovulation.  This reduction also signals your body to reduce other hormones, like estrogen and progesterone, which are important for your sexual health.  “But don’t birth control pills contain estrogen and progesterone?” you may be thinking.  That’s true, but they are synthetic versions which means they don’t match your body’s natural hormones perfectly.

Compounding this lack of natural estrogen, progesterone, and other important hormones called androgens is the increase in Sex Hormone Binding Globulin, or SHBG.  When the synthetic hormones in birth control pills are processed through your body (your liver, specifically), they cause an increase in your body’s production of SHBG.  This is bad because SHBG attaches itself to sex hormones and makes those hormones inactive.  Thus, even if you had sufficient amounts of sex hormones in your body, they are no longer working to keep you sexually healthy.

Birth control pills affected my own sexual health in a couple of ways.  The first and most obvious way was by reducing my libido.  I had a lot of other factors going on that made me not very interested in sex (namely the fact that it was painful).  But, at a biological level I didn’t have a healthy amount of hormones to set any desire in motion.  The second way was less obvious to me at the time, but had the most significant impact.  The reduction in fully functioning hormones left my vestibule red, atrophied, and painful to the touch.  Think about what happens to a flower petal that is no longer connected to its life-giving source of water—it wilts and shrinks, the soft surface becomes dry and fragile, andbirth control pills can cause pelvic pain - when sex hurts there is hope the vibrant color begins to fade.  Similarly, the very part of me that was created for sexual pleasure was causing me great pain because it didn’t have the life-giving source of hormones it required to be healthy.  I didn’t recognize these symptoms at the time, and neither did my doctors.  It wasn’t until I saw a sexual health specialist that I learned about the importance of hormones and just how big an impact taking birth control pills had made on my sexual health. Continue reading

Transformation

transformation - when sex hurts there is hopeTransformation—that is a powerful word.  It’s an exciting word, full of discovery and opportunity.  When I first felt God giving me that as my theme word for this year, I was focused on all the positive connotations.  I desire transformation, or at least what is on the other side of it.  You see, when I first heard that word I was thinking about the results of transformation, not the process of transformation.   The first inkling that there might be something other than pure positive in the idea of transformation came when I shared with my sister about my word for the year.  Without hesitation her response to me was, “that sounds scary.”  I hadn’t thought about it until then, but yes, transformation does sound a little scary.  And now that I have walked through some of the process I will tell you that it’s a lot more than scary—it is uncomfortable and downright difficult. Continue reading

How hope began in the darkness

how hope began - when sex hurts there is hopeI think it is time for me to share the story of how this blog came to be.  It’s strange, I was thinking that it felt like the right time to finally share this and I didn’t even realize what month it is until I sat down to write.  This month marks two years since the start of this blog and three years since God put the vision in my heart to create it.  Here’s my story of how hope began in the darkness.

I think I’ve mentioned before about how 2013 was a really tough year for me.  March is when the worst of it began—the beginning of the end of my marriage—and April 1st was my absolute worst day.  I had been given some pretty devastating news the night before and my heart was still reeling from the reality of it all.  I remember that I had to go to work that day due to a number of responsibilities I couldn’t postpone.  I cried as I got ready and I cried as I drove to work, but somehow I managed to hold it together to get through the day.  The next morning I was getting ready for work again and an idea came into my mind about starting a website.  It would be something that could be a resource for others like me—something that could have allowed me to find help sooner. Continue reading